Happiness is it a state of mind?
HAPPINESS! We all want it. We spend a great fortune just to hold its hand and own a fraction of it. These moments lifts our spirits, brightens our day and puts a smile on our gloomy face.
Who doesn’t want to be happy anyway?
We as human, squander every aspects of our life for this ungraspable temporary feeling. I can’t say that I’m an expert, because I too search for it from dusk until dawn.
Sometimes, even in my own dream I quest for it. It’s a drug that we can’t get enough of.
It provides us euphoric moment that awakes every angle of our being.
5 Steps to Happiness
Choosing what is important and what is not. Removing all thoughts and energy towards people, ideas and things that you think crowd your thoughts and bring haziness to things that you need to focus. Identify your needs versus Wants.
People nowadays want the latest gadget follow updated trends. They work hard for it, stressing self for those extra hours and for what? Just for to own those new technologies that provide a flash of a moment.
Those wants that we capital our time and money will be the first thing that will frustrate us in the end. Learn to Lose and let go. Not every ending will be the end of your existence.
You can list the top five of your priorities. Focus your energy on it and I’m sure you will achieve it. These will be the beginning that will bring freshness to your life and leave a space where you can include the things that will make you happy.
At the end of the day it’s your own life you are the captain of your own ship. Loads and burdens will only sink you to the sea of misery and doubts
2. Look for a Silver Lining
Things happen for a reason. It may be a snowballing cause of your own making. There are things that are out of your control. Give yourself a break, you’re not the only person in this world that has this problem.
Say this “In every problem there’s a solution”.
If life throws you lemons make lemonade. In every situation there’s a glimpse of hope that lights a fire within. Find that silver lining. Teach yourself to move lightly despite your burdens. Turn your problems into slightly better problems.
Laugh at Your tears while you cry them. You may salivate at the thought of a problem free life full of happiness and eternal compassion.
But in reality problems never cease. The solution to one problem is merely the creation of next one. Make sure to find the beauty in every aspect of your life it will give you a new perspective that simply living equals to happiness.
3. Suffer Accordingly
Life is a form of suffering. You can never free yourself from suffering. It hurts us even in our most comfortable zone. The rich suffer because of their richest.
The poor suffer because of their poverty. People without family suffer because they have no family. People with family suffer because of their family. People who pursue worldly pleasures suffer because of the worldly Pleasures. People who
Abstain from worldly Pleasures suffer because of their abstention. We all heard and witnessed all the sufferings. Humans suffered every day. It doesn’t mean that you need to give up life because you suffer. Suffering is a part of life. Learn to live with it.
I can point out a lot of examples that wherever we are whatever we do Suffering still exist. Suffering is nature’s preferred agent to for inspiring change.
Even the great Buddha found the value and enlightenment of oneself through suffering. He Left all his fortune because it only brings him emptiness.
4. Accept Dissatisfaction.
We have evolved to always live with a certain degree of dissatisfaction and insecurity, because it’s the mildly dissatisfied and insecure creature that’s going to do the most work to innovate and survive. We are wired to become dissatisfied by only what we do not have.
This constant dissatisfaction has kept our species fighting and striving, building and conquering. So, our own misery is not a bug of human Evolution; they’re a feature. Dissatisfaction means you are only human. Every human has some degree of dissatisfaction.
Some might overtly show and speak their minds on how they are dissatisfied about things. Others will keep it to themselves. You are not the only one who’s not satisfied. Acceptance is the key to move forward.
5. Treat pain as a Friend.
Pain in all its form, is our body’s way to inform us that something is wrong and it warrants immediate our attention.
Physical pain is a feedback mechanism of our nervous system to give us a sense of our physical proportions where we can and cannot move; and what we can and cannot touch.
When we exceed those limits our nervous systems duly punishes us to make sure that we pay attention and never do it again. And this pain, as much as we hate it, is useful.
Pain is what teaches us to pay attention. It aids us to decipher on what’s good for us versus what’s bad. It helps s adhere to our own limitation. Accept the fact that we can’t do all things.
Therefore, it is not always beneficial to avoid pain and seek pleasure. This is what’s so dangerous about the society that treats itself more from the inevitable discomforts of life.
We lose the benefits of experiencing healthy doses of pain, a loss that disconnects us from the reality of the world around us.
Pain is a part of the process. It’s important to feel it. When in pain we often tend to gravitate on positive thoughts to mask the pain away. This is merely coping. Addressing the pain will ultimately lead us to better ourselves and discover that only in pain can we
Understand what happiness is about.
You can’t appreciate even a candle of light without passing into darkness.